24 "It's So Simple But It's Something I've Not Been Able To Do" and "I Don't Know How We're Funding The Non Profit"

Guest1: [00:00:00] I'm in Atlanta, Georgia. I live in America. I met a guy, and he brought me here. That's the short version. I have a very long version, but that's the gist of it. Yeah. I've been here since 2012. Although we say Atlanta, I'm about 25 minutes from Atlanta. I live in Stone mountain. There's lots of trees. There's a huge lake over there. It's just it's really nice. It's peaceful. It's very quiet. Very different in London. So the cost of living is so much cheaper here. So good move. Would really become really important to me.

It's being able to have the freedom and time to spend with my children. And I have to figure it out like so. But it works for our family because the what? Day in the day, the time that they start school over here is extremely early. The past time for my children here at 630 in the morning and work. I don't finish work till seven. I never really thought. It's like you just let the kids. But that's pretty normal. But a lot of people are business owners here. That's what I've noticed, because entrepreneurship here is very much encouraged, especially through the tax system. When you have a business, you're able to claim a lot of exemptions and write off. So it's really beneficial. I got a side hustle from it. I do not.

Everybody takes the step that I took Christmas like this year. I can still go back to a job. But my plan is to figure it out like this one. When I took my daughter to the baby, I took her to, you know, trampoline toddler time, you know, yesterday. And take her to the library in the morning around 1011. You know, she's just so happy, you know? I've never done that with her. She's always two. That my heart is full. I'm just like I'm left home. I mean, so I can't tell you, like, it's so simple. But it's something that I've not been able to do. I mean, and my oldest is 18 as a bit. And I've never been able to do that with my kids. I think, like I have always had to work. The reason why it's not that way, because we put a lot of extra money and material things, and unfortunately, the children only think they're the ones that think you can give them monetary things all day long.

But what they really want is you, you know? And because when I had my first or I was a single parent, so having her and it was just such a struggle getting up, getting at school, getting to work, coming out, picking her up when it was just it felt like I was doing a job. I almost, almost was like a robot. And I guess that's why God gave me four children, because the difference between my parenting and me, my attitude is change. So much like I'm so much more patient. I'm so much more loving, but you just feel so much more relaxed. Like my kids are just happy. They wake up in the morning, they're happy, you know, they think in the dark than before. I love you, mommy, in a beautiful light, but it's because I have the time to spend with them, you know? I know stuff about them. I can do little stuff with them. And honestly, it comes down to confidence and that level of confidence. Sometimes it comes with age and it comes with experience, you know? And I think for me, I've just been toiling for so many years and then seeing other people also toiling and unhappy, and at least it's like a constant. It's just a constant.

Nobody is happy, you know, like, well, I was recently diagnosed with Pmdd. It's crazy. It's actually a really severe form of PMS, and it affects 1 in 12 women. 1 in 5 are undiagnosed. It's hormonal. If you do with your monthly release of your egg and the way that your body reacts to the hormones around that time of your cycle. My anxiety was at like ten around that time. So you just kind of feel like you can do anything. It was so debilitating, and I nearly lost my family because of it that I've smashed stuff up, I've smashed phones, I punched a hole in the wall. So I was like, okay, let me go to the doctor. I went to the doctor and I'm like, oh yeah, you've got PMS. You start taking this, you fine. So now I no longer have that fits of anxiety and stress and like feeling low. Like really? No. Depressed. Like I feel like a butterfly. Like I'm like, what am I going to do? So I went to finance. I've worked in finance all my life, my my degrees in finance.

And I've always done like banking, investment management. And it's one of the things that I'm trying to get to grips of. Even with my children, I feel like we're sold almost like a fake belief in the system that you go to school, you get your qualifications, you become an employee. What then? Then you retire, and then you might get some time to enjoy your life. Right? But then I think we all have a value, and we all have kids and those people that really understand themselves, and they're able to develop those gifts and talents that they have, those that I have people that are happy in this life. And it's one of those we've been sort of like directed down this path and. They having a cookie cutter?

This is personal and that's what has been determined successful. But in my world that I've created for myself, success is about how you feel. And it's about contentment. And people like, oh, I'm not happy because I'm stuck in this. Like, hey, don't you want to do Island? Because we're stuck on what we don't want and what we don't like? Then, like for me now, I'm really it's really changed my outlook on my children. I don't want them to just be employees just for the sake of getting three, four weeks holiday a year. I'm not trying to bash people that do that because I did it and I've done it, but I'm just saying there is an alternative. And typically when people do make a change because you're relying on yourself the same way you work hard for someone else, you work double hard for yourself. [00:05:58][358.6]

Naty: [00:06:04] Hey folks, it's Naty. We'll be back with more right after this break. What the hell is my job? [00:06:15][11.2]

Guest2: [00:06:16] I was, at Amazon working at a fulfillment center. [00:06:19][3.3] I'm based in the middle of northern and southern California, the Central Valley of California. So I'm like, you know, near the coast area and also near, like, all the other stuff and day to day, like, I pretty much didn't have much of a life because I work. I work the night shift. Sorry. The sleep promotion. Okay. But when I did, you know, I would go to work and I would just do my normal routine where I would go take a get a station, go start packing, or start, taking orders. And if I had an appointment that I had to go to, I really didn't need to tell anybody. I would just, like, write my name on the board and use, like, my PTO and go to my appointment, or I would do it on a day that I was off work. But having the flexibility of being remote is just easier.

I'm able to like, message my boss and let him know, like, hey, I have a doctor's appointment with my endocrinologist today and I need to get this situated and figure out my testosterone levels. And then he's like, okay, well, we can go ahead and, push our meeting later on, or it's like, we can figure out if this is like, an important meeting that we need to have a conversation about right now or if we can wait for tomorrow. So it's pretty much changed how I view everything right now and having a supportive thoughts. And it's definitely helpful and it helps with your mental health. Yeah, it's honestly it's really nice. You know, it's nice to have a boss that understands what you go through. It's nice to have a boss that just because you know, you have you have some bosses out there who will just say, you know, I understand, I get it, you know? But like when I talk about certain things, he actually understands and actually gets it because he's gone through it himself.

You know, he feels for me, you know, he gets it. So that's really nice that just being able to connect with your boss on a personal level as well as on a professional level. So before this nonprofit, I didn't know much about Mac. But after starting and researching more of him, I learned that he's the number one bestseller in multiple categories on Amazon. He wrote a book called Positive Masculinity Now, which goes over his workshops, his gender studies, pretty much everything that we put out. So, yeah, like, he he knows, like a lot of the other trans people out there and then some of the younger trans people out there as well, like his schedule is almost always packed with something like right now he's been packed and booked for schools and educate with, LGBT people. So I work remote.

Currently, this is an internship position for me. I don't know how we're funding the nonprofit. What I was told when I first started is that everything is pretty much coming out of Mac's pocket. And currently, right now, we're in the process of going through a state program called Humanity Speech, for Washington. And they help find all of the local communities that we're trying to get into and trying to spread the message that, you know, you don't have to be a specific type of person to have masculinity. [00:09:29][185.7]

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